Some conversations just don’t go very well. You know the ones — you were completely blindsided by someone or totally lost it yourself. Conversations are not what we think they are. On the surface it may look like we’re engaging in a simple “ask and tell” trading of information, but neurological …
Are Women Really Better at Relationships?
Written By: Dr. Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPCC | It was with equal amounts of anticipation and dread that I read the R. Chase article “What Men Want.” I laughed out loud when I read the following exchange between the author and a male friend: “I once had a conversation with a friend of mine about …
BUILDING RESILIENCE: How to Get a Grip, Get Back Up and Go On
Written By: Dr. Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPCC | I recently had my first appointment with my new primary care physician. As she scanned the medical history of my parents, she paused when she got to the cause of death. “So… your father was … murdered?” Most of the clients I encounter have …
Life Hacks to Handle Difficult People
Written By: Dr. Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPCC | I get to spend most of my time with clients coming up with “life hacks,” those simple and deliciously clever ways to deal with life’s frustrations and without a doubt, difficult people are at the top of the list. They’re confounding, exasperating, …
Love Sick: An Unhappy Marriage Can Be Hazardous To Your Health
Does the quality of your romantic relationship affect your health? As it turns out, the answer is yes. Thanks to the work of marriage researchers, we now know that an unhappy marriage can increase your chances of getting sick by 35 percent and even shorten your life by an average of four years! The …
The Easiest Way to Make a Tough Decision
Written By: Dr. Jan Anderson, PsyD, LPCC | You might say I’m in the “change business.” Most people seek me out because they want to change something in their lives, usually some variation of: How can I get along better with myself? How can I get along better with other people? These …
Men, Women, Marriage & Sex: How It’s Different Now
The period drama Mad Men highlighted the American cultural revolution during the 1960s, when it was a man’s world at home and when sexual banter at the office wasn’t yet harassment. Not long after the final episode ended in the time period 1970, an unknown researcher was beginning another …
Divorce is a Team Sport
Divorce affects you, your finances, your family, and every other aspect of your life. It’s critical that you go through the process correctly so you get the most favorable outcome possible. There’s no do-over. You get one shot to lay the foundation for your future. Do it right! The best way to …